Porn is Ruining Sex For Many Men!

I remember back in 2006 having a very interesting conversation with one of my friends. He explained to me that he only cheated on his girlfriend because she was crap in bed. I retorted that he maybe only thought she was crap because he watched far too much porn, and explained how real sex wasn’t what you saw in films. He actually agreed that was a good possibility (and then continued to cheat on her until they eventually broke up). Ten years later, it seems I may have been ahead of the curve.

Portrait of unhappy young heterosexual couple in bedroom

Surge in Sexual Problems

A top psychosexual therapist has stated that there is a huge surge in the number of young men suffering from sexual problems due to the abundance of free porn.

Angela Gregory says more and more men in their late teens and early 20s are suffering from erectile dysfunction. This is apparently due to online porn addiction.

“What I’ve seen over the last 16 years, particularly the last five years, is an increase in the amount of younger men being referred,” she said.

“Our experience is that historically men that were referred to our clinic with problems with erectile dysfunction were older men whose issues were related to diabetes, MS, cardio vascular disease.

“These younger men do not have organic disease, they’ve already been tested by their GP and everything is fine.

“So one of the first assessment questions I’d always ask now is about pornography and masturbatory habit because that can be the cause of their issues about maintaining an erection with a partner.”

Nick (not his real name) started watching porn when he got his first laptop when he was 15.

“It quickly escalated and it was every day. What I was watching, it definitely got more extreme over a short period of time in my case.

“There was nothing that would give me a kick. Normal stuff didn’t do anything any more, so I had to get more and more extreme material.

“[It was] disturbing stuff that disturbed me that, in normal life, I wouldn’t dream of doing.”

Well, it didn’t take long for things to go wrong in his sex life.

“I found that when I was lying next to a girl a lot that I just wouldn’t be horny at all, despite being really attracted to the girl and wanting to have sex with her, [because] my sexuality was completely wired towards porn.

“At my peak I was probably watching up to two hours of porn every day.”

Obviously Nick knew there was a problem, so he went and sought help.

“At first I went to a doctor and she said, ‘I don’t think there’s enough evidence to suggest it’s a thing, however I do have a lot of young men coming to me with this problem.'”

In the end Nick went 100 days without watching porn and was relieved when things got back to normal.

“My libido came back with a vengeance and I met this girl and it was great.

“For the first time in ages I was able to flirt and within quite a short time I was able to have normal sex.

“I was feeling so balanced and happy.”

He also has advice for anyone suffering with a similar problem.

“Once I recovered I spent a lot of time on online forums trying to help others do the same.

“There’s a lot more information online than when I had problems.

“You should tell your friends, tell people who are close to you or just a couple of people you trust. And don’t worry, there are many of us in the same boat.”

A Problem With Porn?

I can genuinely see that there is a point here. If you watch too much porn, what sex is can really change in your mind. This will cause, for many, normal sex to become so vanilla that it isn’t worth doing.

However, what is the way to stop that happening? Well, we will hear lots about making porn ‘less accessible’. However, that just seems restrictive.

What needs to happen, in my opinion, is for schools to take a more pro-active approach. All the kids there will be watching porn in their spare time. They need to be taught that what happening isn’t real. That although porn is fun, it can mess up real sex. However, if watched correctly, it can give you some great ideas and a lot of fun times.

Obviously this isn’t the time to talk about the pro’s and con’s of porn, so I will keep that superficial. But remember folks, there can be too much of a good thing!

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Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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2 thoughts on “Porn is Ruining Sex For Many Men!”

  1. Hello Chaps!

    I watch porn a lot, maybe too much.
    I have had girls watching porn with me, even do a webcam with me, that was a huge turn on.

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