OK, I will admit it, I’m a man. Therefore I don’t always understand the ‘female experience’. I look at the world and I hear from social media that women find life so hard, but then see that Angela Merkel runs Germany, Hillary Clinton is about to become President, and other women are doing well.
I go on Twitter and hear that white men keep everyone else down and that we are ‘blessed’. I then realise I came from a working class house and that my family didn’t have a pot to piss in. Everything I have got I have worked for. When I say everything, I mean I own my own house and my family don’t starve, there wasn’t some escalator to the stars.
I don’t ‘get’ modern day feminism. Yes, women deserve equal rights and equal pay. Anyone who doesn’t think that belongs in a bygone era. Yet, I still can’t round my head that there is now a nation of Feminaz’s waiting around to be offended by everything.
The latest one to confuse me is is the decision by Barrister Charlotte Proudman to use Twitter as a forum to expose lawyer Alexander Carter-Silk as a ‘sexist’ after he complimented her Linkedin photograph.
The 57-year-old lawyer was accused of “unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour” after he sent the barrister half his age a LinkedIn message complimenting her on her “stunning picture”.
He was then named and shamed by Proudman (or should we call her ‘Proudperson’?)
He has since apologised for the message, where he told Ms Proudman he was “delighted to connect”, adding “I appreciate that this is probably horrendously politically incorrect but that is a stunning picture !!!”
The lawyer, a partner at a major firm continued: “You definitely win the prize for the best Linked in picture I have ever seen
“Always interest [sic] to understant [sic] people’s skills and how we might work together”.
Her response, which heated debate on social media, read: “I am on linked-in for business purposes not to be approached about my physical appearance or to be objectified by sexist men.
“The eroticisation of women’s physical appearance is a way of exercising power over women. It silences women’s professional attributes as their physical appearance becomes the subject
“Unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour. Think twice before sending another woman (half your age) such a sexist message.”
A Bad Move
OK, I will say that this isn’t the right forum to say such things. It was inadvisable, and she is right when she says this should be left for the dating sites. This is a professional site for high flyers and should remain as such. However, her decision to publicly humiliate him AFTER making an official complaint just smacks of her trying to destroy someone who thought he was being nice.
I understand that sexism does exist in the workplace of certain organisations. But if we have got to the stage where you can’t say someone looks nice (men or women) then the world is going to become a very boring place. There is a huge difference between that and telling someone to get her knockers out, or slapping her ass.
I uploaded a picture of myself in the gym a few weeks ago. An ex-colleague (female) said I looked ‘sexy’. Now I know her and she was just giving a compliment, and I was delighted by it. There will be many years where I’m old, I look like crap and I never get another thumbs up from a woman. To me, that isn’t objectifying, and I find the whole thing ridiculous.
This is the whole feminism argument that no-one should ever be viewed through a perspective of how they look. Sadly, as we are all human (women as well) we aren’t robots and it will happen.
A few months ago I heard some woman saying she would slap a guy if he held the door open for her. “How dare he say she is weak and can’t do it for herself”. I was blown away. By the way, I will hold doors for women, I will never slam a door in a guys face either.
The reaction on social media has been fascinating. Though she has had a lot of support from people saying she is exposing sexism. You know the sort, the ones who wait around to be offended. However, she has also had a huge backlash from many women who think that she lacks a sense of humour, or according to Sarah Vine from the Daily Mail, think she is solely motivated by self advancement.
There is also a belief that this is painting the female cause as one of entitlement and bitterness, when in fact women’s rights groups have done so much.
As I said at the top, maybe I just don”t get it. I just see a difference between a compliment and misogyny. If he had sent a picture of his dick then I can understand her upset. However, trying to ruin a man’s career because he said her picture looks nice?
If that is the world we are entering, then the next 50 years for me (hopefully) are going to be pretty crap.
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.