Being a punter is challenging enough as it is thanks to the many people campaigning for the purchasing of sex to be made illegal. Other countries around the world have already adopted the Swedish model, and all it does is push the industry further underground. It makes choosing the right escort much more difficult. Already punters and starting to feel a touch of anxiety whenever they book a date, just in case they get screwed over for what two consenting adults get up to behind closed doors when money changes hands.
Even before all of this talk about making punters into criminals, clients have found themselves getting nervous. There are so many reasons for anxiety to kick in, whether they start to panic about their own performance or they have had negative experiences in the past. Dealing with it when you are punting can be challenging. On Escort England we understand how tough it can be, so we have put together a brief guide to dealing with anxiety when punting and just what you need to do to identify your triggers and stop it from happening again in the future!
What sets you off?
Dealing with anxiety is tough, especially when others can’t really help you. Yes, if you have severe anxiety you can see your doctor and get medication, but you also need to learn the triggers and coping techniques for those moments when it gets really rough.
When you are trying to think of the things that cause your anxiety, it might be glaringly obvious. You might struggle with phimosis and have found that a lot of escorts don’t know how best to handle it. If that is the case, the best thing that you can do is to talk to the escort in advance and your top tips with them. This will put both you and them at ease, and if they have questions during your date an open and frank conversation can help.
However, you might not know your trigger. It might be that you simply find yourself getting nervous whenever you go on a date with an escort. If that is the case, you should let the escort know that you do struggle with anxiety and that, if you do start to panic, it won’t be their fault. They can then help you through it and maybe even help you figure out what is going on.
There tend to be some common triggers for clients, so if you are having a hard time figuring out what sends you into a panic, try avoiding these and see if they help. Finding your chosen escort can be a nightmare, and sometimes, no matter how well you plan your date, things change. It might be that you get to the location and can’t get hold of the escort, or that you find yourself dealing with traffic.
When it comes to traffic, try setting off a little earlier and keep an eye on the roads you will be travelling. It might be that they have roadworks scheduled that you can easily avoid, and having that little buffer of time is great.
As for getting hold of the escort, you should use everything at your disposal to contact them. Try ringing them and, if you can’t get hold of them, send a text and include the time you are sending it, as some phones don’t register the sent time. You can then try to contact them through the message boards if they have an account, and if you still can’t get hold of them and find your anxiety growing, let them know that you are leaving with a text message. It could be that something has come up and they cannot contact you, and keeping them informed will make sure everyone is happy.
It might be that your anxiety is being trigged by your performance. You may feel that you aren’t good enough in bed, but the only way to get better is to keep at it. Tell your chosen escort the things you are most keen to learn and they’ll be able to help you. You might just leave as an expert of cunnilingus, and that is something you certainly won’t forget for a long time!
Premature ejaculation is also a common problem. If that is the case for you, you need to learn to work on delaying your orgasm. Take breaks when you need them by switching to something that gives your cock a break, such as pussy eating or kissing, and over time you will start to build up your confidence and your cock for more fun.
Coping techniques for anxiety
When you’re dealing with anxiety, you often don’t want to hang around and keep yourself in that situation. Your fight or flight instinct kicks in, and most of us simply want to get out. Of course, if we do this we are giving in to our anxiety and letting it control us. Instead, you need to try and get some techniques to help you cope.
For some it can be as simple as simply taking deep breaths. Concentrate on each breath that you take and slowly let them in and out. It might sound like a little thing to do, but it can really help to keep you grounded.
Sometimes this isn’t enough, and a brief break to give yourself some space can work wonders. Try going to the toilet and splashing some cold water on your face. It might just be the shock you need to get back in the game and enjoying yourself, and if not spending time thinking about what is making you anxious and rationalising it to yourself can really help.
Anxiety can be really tough to deal with as a client. One of the best things that you can do to help yourself deal with it is to talk to your chosen escort. They will be understanding and take their time with you, which might simply be all that you need. You can also find great advice on the Escort England forum, or you could share your own tips by leaving a comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.