Not everybody has the same interests in bed. That said, a lot of us will share the same disinterests. There are some common turn offs in bed that a lot of people share, and a good way to avoid them is to know what they are.
Here on the Escort England blog we take a look at the 10 biggest turn offs in bed. Don’t agree? Let us know what your biggest turn offs are by leaving a comment in the box below.
1. Skipping foreplay
We get it. When men want sex, they are ready for it pretty much immediately. Your cock will stand to attention and you are good to go. Women? Not so much.
We need a bit of time to warm up and get turned on. If you skip foreplay, then sex is just going to be more unpleasant for us.
And yet, a lot of people do that anyway. They will skip foreplay, or count foreplay as just a minute of kissing and fingering and think that they don’t need to do anything else. If you want to have an amazing time in bed, you need to.
2. Being a bad kisser
A lot of the turn offs on this list can easily be fixed, and this is definitely one of them. When you first start learning to kiss, you don’t really have any idea what you are doing. Over time, you’ll learn what you need to in order to give great kisses.
Some people don’t. Some people just assume that they are getting it right, forcing their tongue as far into the mouth of their partner as they can.
Being a bad kisser is a turn off for many of us. If you think this might be you, try slowing things down a little and do soft, teasing kissings. You could even talk to your partner about it, which brings us to the next of ten turn offs.
3. Not communicating
Communication is a huge part of sex. Sure, you might not think that it is, but the best sex you can have usually has you talking to your partner before or after about what you like the best.
If you don’t talk to us in the bedroom, you aren’t going to get the sex you want. It is even worse if we try to start a conversation about sex and you clam up about it.
We are all adults, so talking about sex should be easier. If your partner judges you for your turn ons, that is their problem, not yours. So instead of staying quiet about it, you should get vocal.
4. Bad hygiene
Nobody likes to have sex with someone who is dirty, and while your brief stint in the shower might seem like enough, we can promise you that it isn’t.
You need to spend at least five minutes cleaning your cock and the area around it. Roll back the foreskin and use warm, soapy water to clean your cock.
Why? Because the cleaner you are, the dirtier sex gets. Plus, if you want to enjoy a little blowjob before you fuck your partner, a nice, clean cock is going to get a lot more attention than a dirty one.
5. Putting in no effort
One of the biggest turn offs for many people is when their partner puts zero effort into sex. They might just lie there and leave it down to the other person to do all of the work.
This is particularly common for the person on the bottom to do. If you suspect that this is you, you should try to up your game.
Instead of just lying there, use your hands. Reach up and stroke your partner’s tits, give them a fondle, and turn them on. You could even rub at their clit to see if you can help them to orgasm. Why not add a thrust or two when they are coming down to make your cock go deeper? It’ll feel amazing.
6. Bad dirty talk
Dirty talk is one of those things that you will have to talk to your partner about before you try it. For some people it is a turn off, but the worst thing is actually bad dirty talk.
You need to know what kind of things are acceptable. They might just want to hear you say that you are horny for them, and that you can’t wait to lick their pussy. If you then go in, calling them your slut you want to fuck, they aren’t going to enjoy it… and neither will you.
To start with, you need to tone it down. Don’t go in shouting your mouth off. Test words and see what works. The things that turn them on will become obvious to you, so experiment and see what it is they like to hear in the bedroom.
7. Getting too rough
Some people like rough sex. Some people don’t like rough sex. There are two ways for you to find out. You could sit down and talk with your partner, but a lot of people instead jump straight in.
We can all get a little bit rough when it comes to sex, but the problem is we often get carried away with it. This means that slamming hard into that cunt or biting on their shoulder can be more painful than pleasurable.
This, of course, works both ways. With many of the turn offs listed above, it can be anyone doing it. However, the simple solution here is to tell your partner not to be so rough, or to ask your partner if it is good for them. If they like it, then by all means, carry on. If not, you might need to rethink your fun a little bit.
Exaggerating is fine, but lying in the bedroom is the perhaps the biggest of the turn offs on this list. Yes, we get it, you want to impress us… but by claiming you can give us an orgasm in thirty seconds and then not delivering, you will be leaving your partner disappointed.
The solution? Don’t make promises you can’t deliver on.
Stick to the things that you can do in the bedroom. If you are great at oral sex, brag about that. If you are able to get into some of the kinkier Kama Sutra positions, tell them. Just make sure you can actually follow through on the things you say, or you’ll have a bad time.
9. Jackhammer sex
In porn, it isn’t often slow and sensual sex. It tends to be hard and fast. The man will basically jackhammer his penis into the waiting pussy, and the woman will be totally fine with it.
Try this in real life, on the other hand, and it just isn’t going to work out for you. We aren’t a sex doll that you can treat as you like. We are a human being you are fucking, and you need to think about our needs as we have sex. If we are begging for you to fuck us hard and fast, then go for it. If not, you should slow things down.
Jackhammering can actually really hurt your partner and dry their pussy up. This means you’ll either need lube to hand or you’ll have to stop to give them some attention and turn them on. If you would rather not do this, then jackhammering is not for you.
10. Faking it
Women might fake it in the bedroom for a number of reasons. They might want to give your ego a boost. They might want to move on to something else. They might even feel like it is something that they absolutely have to do… but women aren’t the only ones to fake it in bed.
Men can do it too… but this is usually when they start moaning and groaning. Yes, we like to hear some sounds to let us know we are doing well, but if you start screaming our names out loud immediately, we are going to feel like you are just doing it to make us feel better.
When your partner does something you like, let out a little moan. When your partner does something you REALLY like, get a bit louder. The closer to orgasm you get, the louder you can be.
What are your biggest turn offs?
These are ten of the biggest turn offs, but what do you think? Do you agree with the list, or are there some things we have missed? Maybe we have included something that you don’t think is a turn off.
We want to hear from you. You can let us know what you think about our list either by using the comment box below or by starting a discussion on the Escort England forum.
Tell us the least sexy things people can do in the bedroom, or even the hottest, and see what others think of your kinky ideas.
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